To get over him
Lesson learned.
When a person feels bad more than a year after the break up, it’s because he or she has spent the past year relieving the relationship. This comes in the forms of trying to figure out exactly what meant wrong, fuelled by the inaccurate belief that if you could just figure it out, then you could let go or even make everything right.
But for me.
The reality is that spending so much time trying to figure out what went wrong keeps you attached and prevents you from moving on. Relationships are messy things and many times we can never really know exactly what went wrong.
Our brains are very obedient at times. If you keep asking your brain to figure out what you did wrong, it’s going to search for all kinds of reasons and you are going to wind up feeling like a failure.
And i experienced that anyway. During my tough times, I felt the emptiness with in my soul. I can’t eat and sleep like I used to. I even isolated myself to others. I felt the pain and sadness that ruined my day. Almost everyday!
But as past few days went on…I realized that the TRUTH is the relationship failed, I DIDN’T.
I worked up and said to myself…
“If you handle yourself well, feel good about your behavior and choices and even use what you learnt in other relationships, then you are SUCCESSFUL.
I created an exit door in my heart and then show this to that person, and the PAIN and HURT, right out the door.
Now,
LETTING GO maybe so difficult at FIRST. But soon you can conquer it alone or with SOMEBODY else.
And
Willing enough to fall in love again.
